I'm sure I have many deep and thoughtful things to say today but the fact is I am just too darn tired to contemplate the universe. I only slept about 1.5hrs this morning after I dropped Caleb off at school. I had many errands and appointments, plus I had to finish my paper. I really haven't stopped all day. So even though I know you have been looking forward to my wonderful posts, I am just going to have to disappoint you my friends.
Without further ado, I bid you good night! De
Where Do I Go From Here?
Welcome to the chaos I call LIFE.
Monday, May 06, 2013
Sunday, May 05, 2013
Sunday - And I'd Rather Be a Problem Solver
We've often seen the picture and the accompanying question
of “is the glass half-full or half-empty”.
I always thought I was an optimist thinking that the glass was half-full
and life is filled with many opportunities and promises. That is, until my demotion. I found myself constantly thinking bleakly
regarding my current state of affairs and looking into a foggy horizon. How to turn this around?
Most of the time we are quite unaware of our optimism or pessimism,
or exactly what we are doing in our lives or the direction we are taking,
unless someone kindly points it out to us.
But our attitudes affect our actions and our thoughts and more directly,
what is visualized or not, and what we do or don’t do. We, quite unintentionally, assume what we are
thinking or how we are acting, is the truth, but most of the time it is an
altered reality.
Take for instance my demotion. I cried and moaned about how everyone was
against me and that I was worthless despite knowing intuitively that this was
simply not true. Then I received a text
from a one of my fellow nurses simply stating “you have true friends here, not
as vocal or out front, but often times much more loyal”. I think I must have cried a whole bucket load
of tears.
We can pay a high price for mistaken assumptions and
ignoring the richness and promises of any given situation. The fallout can discolor our lives without
any awareness that this is happening, never quite knowing where we are or where
we should be. Allowing our disbelief and fears to control our actions and clouding the possibilities of tomorrow.
My current situation has certainly given cause for me to
re-examine who I thought where my friends, who I thought I could trust, and to
lift the veil of assumption to the clearer path of knowledge. I’d like to think it has also spurred me to
taking action on some issues that have lain in the background, such as clearing
the cobwebs of my debt and lightening my financial responsibilities.
How do I plan on reducing debts if my income is
reduced? Simply put…cut the bacon fat,
get rid of excesses, live on what is necessary and not on what is a luxury. I’m paying off bills now, not going to buy a
new car when mine is paid for in a few months, and moving from a 3-bedroom town home to a 2-bedroom one. Basically
my plan is to not incur new debts. So
you see, I can continue to wallow in self-pity, bemoan my current fate, or I
can seize the opportunity to not only see the glass half-full but formulate a
plan to have a simpler, less stress-field life.
From now on I’d like to see myself as a problem solver.
Ciao! De :)
Sunday - And Taking a School Break for the Sunday Seven #392
What couldn't you do without? Beyond the obvious choices
like water, food, oxygen and other necessities that are so necessary that life
literally can’t occur without them?
That’s the list for this week. Are there seven things you
can come with that you’d have a hard time doing without? I've made my list. I
invite you to do the same.
Without further ado, here is mine:
7 Things I Feel I Couldn't Do Without
1. God
I think this will be a lot of people's number 1, I could be
wrong though. My faith is very important
to me. I may not splash it all across my
blog or Facebook, or throw it in your face, but I do believe in God and He is
what gets me through everything...good and bad.
2. Family
I've always been close to my parents and siblings, some more
at different times in my life than others.
I would hate to not be able to keep in touch with any of them. Living in different states does tend to make
it difficult, but through the modern miracles of technology we manage.
3. My Boyfriend
I am very fortunate to have found a man with whom I get
along with so well, who knows me and loves me despite my many flaws. I treasure this man more than anyone I've
ever been involved with and would be devastated if I lose contact with
him. He is my rock.
4. My Friends
I have been very fortunate to have some very solid
friendships and to have friends who will weather any storm with me. They are with me good and bad, and we have
many silly, fun, and sometimes tearful escapades.
5. My Cat
I love my cat even though she annoys the ever living snot
out of me at times and sleeps with her butt in my face. She is my constant companion.
6. The Internet
It almost escapes my mind to think of life without the
internet, I know my children have certainly never experienced this phenomenon. The internet is always on and a constant link
with so many I value in addition to the world at large.
7. Television
I would have to say that television is my second constant
companion whether I'm watching it or not, it's always on in the background and
makes a warmer home.
How about you? Can you name things you couldn't do
without? Play along and post your
answers at Patrick's Place.
Saturday, May 04, 2013
Saturday - And it's a Double Entry Day - Saturday Six #473
I used to play this meme from Patrick's Place several years ago when I used to routinely journal. Thought I'd give it another whorl.
1. If you
had to get up in front of a room of strangers, which of these would you be
LEAST comfortable admitting: your true age, your true weight or your true
income? Oh gosh easy hands down….my
true age! I tell everyone I’m 29 (even
though they know I’m not) and I hate thinking about getting older, but then who
does?
2. Which of
those three would you be MOST comfortable admitting to the same crowd? Hmmmmm….my income? Difficult decision. No woman likes to talk about her age or her
weight.
3. If you
knew when your last meal was going to happen, what would you like to have on
the menu? A nice steak, potatoes,
salad, and a great red wine.
4. Who are
you most concerned about disappointing? Myself.
5. What’s
the toughest job you've ever had?
Oh gosh, being a Mother. You
never want to fail at raising your children to be the best they can be with
great morals and ethics.
6. What
event scared you more than anything else you've experienced? I couldn't find my daughter one evening and
thought she had been kidnapped. She had
been playing with one of the neighbor kids and was not allowed out in the front
yard unsupervised, but I couldn't find her in the house or the back yard. I looked all around, called the neighbors,
was about to dial 911 when I saw her in the backyard playing along the side of
the house with a frog. I remember
throwing up once I realized she was safe.
Saturday - And I Still Wish I Were Pepper Potts
I'm going to take a break from being self-absorbed and talk about Ironman 3. Went and saw this today with Caleb and it is well worth the wait, worth the money, and the only thing I wish was different was that I wish we could have seen it in IMAX but it was sold out. The story is much better than the second movie where I think the producers kind of let quality go due to making The Avengers at the same time. That being said, I'd pay to see this movie again, and I'm sure it has nothing to do with the fact Robert Downey, Jr. is starring front and center, haha.
I won't spoil this for you, but if you go see the movie, make sure you stay until after the very, very long credits. There is a scene that gives a clue for what is coming up next. I didn't get it at first, but I figured it out while writing this entry. That's all I'm going to say though, don't want to ruin anything for you.
I remember doing a post about the original Ironman movie when it came out about 5 or 6 years ago and I think I titled it "I wish I were Pepper Potts". Yep...still wishing that! To have a hero who worships you has to be every girl's dream. And no matter how much is fantasy, we all need a hero in our life, in some form.
Here's to pleasant dreams!
Ciao! De :)
I won't spoil this for you, but if you go see the movie, make sure you stay until after the very, very long credits. There is a scene that gives a clue for what is coming up next. I didn't get it at first, but I figured it out while writing this entry. That's all I'm going to say though, don't want to ruin anything for you.
I remember doing a post about the original Ironman movie when it came out about 5 or 6 years ago and I think I titled it "I wish I were Pepper Potts". Yep...still wishing that! To have a hero who worships you has to be every girl's dream. And no matter how much is fantasy, we all need a hero in our life, in some form.
Here's to pleasant dreams!
Ciao! De :)
Friday, May 03, 2013
Friday - And I'm Trying to Pause
If you are like me, it is easy to become preoccupied with
the past, with certain events, until the memories are intertwined in the
present and your everyday life until it becomes more and more difficult to
separate the past and present, and let that moment go and move forward. We become focused on those past events, with
what has already happened, which makes it very hard to focus on the
future. We keep looking for ways to
change things and move to a better, happier place, yet we don’t let go of what
is holding us back. Clinging to the past
only keeps us there and restricts our happiness.
I can clearly acknowledge that I am clinging to the “past
event” of being demoted and the feelings leading up to and surround this
event. I am very much aware of my
feelings being projected and affecting how I not only function at work, but at
home as well. I am walling myself off at
work, “hiding out”, not engaging as much as I normally would, and basically going
into self-protect mode.
My home life is affected as well. Take the other night for instance, I was
spending some rare quality time with my boyfriend and became offended by
something I perceived he did (or didn't do), something I would normally not
have even noticed or put much weight behind, but yet that night it bothered me,
a lot. Now let me say this, my boyfriend
and I get along very well, we almost never disagree or have had a fight in
three years, so for me to get upset is very unusual. When I realized what I was doing I couldn't stop crying and all I could say was “I’m sorry, ever since this stupid demotion
I question everything and everyone, even you, and I know who you are, love you and
trust you, and I still question. I feel like my life is spiraling out of
control.”
This revelation caused me to pause. I do NOT want to allow this woman who
targeted me and eventually got me demoted to win, and I do NOT want this single
event in my life to take over and control my thoughts and actions forever. I know that there are moments and days that
are worse than others, and I know that there will continue to be those moments,
but, as I've already said, there are much worse things than being demoted. So why do I feel so demoralized? So defeated?
So beat up? So…small? Well that is what I am hoping to examine and
discover by journaling and exploring my feelings. It’s helped me in the past, and I’m hopeful
it will help me now.
So right now what I want to do is pause, think about this
experience, let it sink in, let me feel my emotions, let those emotions bloom,
produce fruit, harvest, drop from the tree, then wither, die, and blow away
into the past and stay there. I want to
learn from this experience, come to know it better, but I also want go forward. I don’t want to stay in the place of being
upset and suspicious. I want to trust
and love and live fully in the present.
Ciao! De
Thursday, May 02, 2013
Early Thursday - And I’m At the Crossroad
So, as I've already mentioned, there has been a change in my
job position, and not only did my position change, but after 18 years of
working nights, I have changed shifts as well.
And no, before you faint dead away from shock, I did not switch to day
shift…well not entirely. I now work the
mid-shift, you know the shift that merges between the two, the one that begins
when it’s just getting busy and ends when it’s still busy. It’s kind of a half-life I like to think, the
one that merges two different mind sets and ideas and ways of thinking and
working. And honestly, it’s the hardest
shift to work because you almost never get a down time, and you have to work with
everyone, including the “white coats” as I like to call administration.
In the midst of all the anger and hurt of my demotion I felt
I needed some amount of control and I couldn't seem to find it. My boyfriend said “think of what you want,
but don’t give anything away if you don’t have to, but be prepared.” That proved to be very good advice and I went
into the meeting armed with what I wanted and what I expected to happen when I
went back to work. And even though I lost
my position, I gained a shift that I wanted, a shift that would ultimately work
better for me in the long run with school and my family. A shift that would place me working more with
people who appreciated me, and less with those who took advantage of me and disrespected
me.
So whether we like it or not, each moment we have is really all we are
given to work with on any given day. It
is really too easy to go about our lives forgetting where we are, where we have
been, and where we are headed. With
every moment we find ourselves potentially at a crossroad of events in our
lives, a moment that hangs on the here and on the now, and it’s very easy to
get lost in a fog of forgetfulness of where we need to be and what we need to
focus on.
Today, I choose to focus on the positive. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy, and I’m
not saying I’m not going to get upset or depressed or have feelings of
hopelessness. But what I am saying is at the crossroads of here and now, I am going plan on getting up
each day and going to bed each night with a clear goal of focusing on all the
infinite possibilities that lay ahead for me and to use the negative events as
a catalyst to get me…...there.
Ciao! De
Wednesday, May 01, 2013
Early Wednesay - And I Am There
Whatever has happened to you has already happened. The important question is, how are you going
to handle it? In other words…now what?
I’ve been demoted…so what?
What’s worse? Not having a
job. Not having my health. Not having my family. Not having my boyfriend. Not having a place to live or food to eat or
clothes to wear. There is worse than
being demoted. So why does it consume my
every waking/sleeping thought and make me feel like the world is about to
spiral out of control? That is the question.
Like it or not, this is where I am in my life right
now. But an even better question is
where I will be in my life tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year. Well I can tell you that in two days I will
be starting another class in my quest to become a nurse practitioner. In 2 months I will have finished that class
and about to begin another one. Two
months after that? I will be starting my
clinicals, which is the beginning to the end of this phase of my life and
moving forward.
Did anyone just catch what I said….MOVING FORWARD. That’s right, moving forward past the
demotion, past the depression and despair, past the feeling of failure and
inadequacy. Past the bitch who made it
her mission to demoralize me, past the negative environment created by
her. I will be moving past and forward
to what is waiting for me…and whatever it is, it is infinitely better than her and
than this place of being upset.
Now, to just keep my eye on the ball and I’m there.
Ciao! De
Tuesday, April 30, 2013
Tuesday - And I'm Pretty Much Hating Right Now
HATE, it's a four letter word. It can adequately express how you feel and consume every waking & sleeping thought. It's a strong word. I feel like it really describes how I'm feeling right now.
The dictionary defines hate as "to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest". After carefully considering the definition, I pause for a brief few minutes and think...yep, that's definitely how I feel. So what has brought me to this emotion? The better question is "who". The answer is my clinical manager. She is a woman who seems to have no other purpose in life except to make someone else miserable even if it means she is unprofessional.
Take today for instance. I wake up early, get ready, go to my computer training class for the new charting program, and not only is there not a space for me, I'm off the list. I go back to my department and see that there is a new revised list since my last shift and I'm rescheduled for tomorrow. Not a phone call, not a change noted in the computerized schedule, nothing. Not only that, I'm scheduled to be working in the ER during the class time. How am I supposed to be two places at once?
So I place a phone call. What does she say? "I posted the changes over the weekend." I wasn't there I say. "Not my problem" is her reply. Well you could've called me I suggested. She said again "look it's not my problem you weren't at work to know about the changes." Well I'm still in the computer as scheduled for class today. "Again, not my problem." Well who's it is then? Oh yeah, apparently mine.
This is a woman who has single-handily made it her mission to fire me or get me to quit after I stood up to her on the first day she was in her new position when she threatened and attempted to bully me into "you will respect me I demand it". Ever since then she has made it virtually impossible for me to go a week without antagonizing me in some way or writing me up, until finally a few weeks ago I was demoted.
So here is my quandary How can I not feel hate towards her? I don't know, but I'm working on that because this woman is definitely not worthy of consuming me.
Ciao, De
The dictionary defines hate as "to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest". After carefully considering the definition, I pause for a brief few minutes and think...yep, that's definitely how I feel. So what has brought me to this emotion? The better question is "who". The answer is my clinical manager. She is a woman who seems to have no other purpose in life except to make someone else miserable even if it means she is unprofessional.
Take today for instance. I wake up early, get ready, go to my computer training class for the new charting program, and not only is there not a space for me, I'm off the list. I go back to my department and see that there is a new revised list since my last shift and I'm rescheduled for tomorrow. Not a phone call, not a change noted in the computerized schedule, nothing. Not only that, I'm scheduled to be working in the ER during the class time. How am I supposed to be two places at once?
So I place a phone call. What does she say? "I posted the changes over the weekend." I wasn't there I say. "Not my problem" is her reply. Well you could've called me I suggested. She said again "look it's not my problem you weren't at work to know about the changes." Well I'm still in the computer as scheduled for class today. "Again, not my problem." Well who's it is then? Oh yeah, apparently mine.
This is a woman who has single-handily made it her mission to fire me or get me to quit after I stood up to her on the first day she was in her new position when she threatened and attempted to bully me into "you will respect me I demand it". Ever since then she has made it virtually impossible for me to go a week without antagonizing me in some way or writing me up, until finally a few weeks ago I was demoted.
So here is my quandary How can I not feel hate towards her? I don't know, but I'm working on that because this woman is definitely not worthy of consuming me.
Ciao, De
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